Question from Colleen F:
Q: Hello Ann, My now X-husband was paralyzed from his chest down in a near fatal wreck five years ago. We divorced after 25 years of marriage so I can be his legal nurse aid.(wife’s can’t be paid for nursing their husband’s in my state.) That’s the only reason we divorced… Is it ridiculous I feel guilty for wanting to go to “some” concerts without him? He gets sick after a long time in his chair. We were at your concert in Bethel Woods in 2018 or 2019, we were so happy to see you he didn’t get sick that night. 🙂 I love metal music as well. That’s the type of concert I’d rather he didn’t go.. What do you think?
“NO. It’s not ridiculous at all to need time of your own. Being a caregiver is tough and unrelenting. You need to be able to breathe and have experiences beyond that. You are human.
Your long marriage, the conditions around your divorce and your solid commitment to his care prove that you love him and have his welfare first in mind. Don’t feel guilty. Go hear some metal jams and get a breath!”